Are You Caught in Someone Else's Lamp?
Sure, you might be a genie in a magic lamp...but how do you know for sure? You don't even have to take a Buzzfeed quiz to find the answers to this one. Read on to discover if you, too, are secretly a magical genie.
1. You find yourself at the beck and call of others, answering their needs
Whether it's children, coworkers, aging parents or volunteer organizations, you're on the run. Answering questions, carpooling, putting in extra hours and squeezing in a couple extra chores after everyone else has called it quits. It's a sure sign of genie-hood if you find you provide for others more often than yourself.
2. You also enjoy this, at least on some level
Admit it, you get a sense of satisfaction from how well you do this. You're the one with extra tissues, who remembered the meds, the maps, who organized the potluck or finished the new proposal draft. You're on top of it, at least most of the time, and once in a while people even appreciate you. You like being needed, you like being competent, you like being in the mix. Nothing wrong with any of that. Own it.
3. You also resent it, sometimes, a little bit
Well, yeah, who doesn't? Because while you may provide the grease that keeps the wheels running smoothly, every once in a while wouldn't it be nice to have a little more time to do your own thing too? Wouldn't it feel good...if it didn't feel so selfish?
4. There are days you feel fizzy with dreams and ideas--and if you don't find a way to live those you may explode
A magic lamp, even the nicest, is not nearly big enough most days for the magnificence that is you. Chances are, you may be a genie trapped in a lamp if you feel like your brain is being squeezed. And then there's the panicky sense that if you don't get to work on this stuff, NOW, you may lose it forever. I bet you didn't know that even genies have panicky moments, did you.
5. There are days when curling into a fetal position in a small dark space sounds just perfect, thank you very much.
Genies are smart. There are days they look around at the world and think, yeah...this lamp is mighty comfortable. I'll catch ya ll on the other side.
6. And most of all, you might be a genie in a magic lamp if you believe in the power of wishes and transformation.
No doubt about it, genies have seen the proof over many lifetimes. Wishes, intentions, the power of words to shape and affect our reality. In the course of an average day, you ward off the negative nellies, encourage authenticity and honest talk, and help children and adults learn to say please, thank you, no, wait, and other important words.
If you recognized yourself in three or more of these six statements, there is no doubt. You are a magical genie, trapped in a lamp.
And you have a responsibility to free yourself into your own shine.
a version of this piece was published on WITCH magazine. Find it here.